“When he left, I really missed the one who would give me to feel: I will get out,” admits the blogger Jenny Ball-Tafford. Her story about what helped and what prevented her from cope with the state of shock, get on her feet and enjoy life again.

1. First of all, proper breath

Of course, you have heard about its importance before, but now is the case when it is necessary to perform the simplest breathing exercises as often as possible: to inhale deeply and exhale deeply. In a state of stress, breathing is strayed, we breathe more intermittently, which interferes with thinking rationally. But this is now so necessary.

2. No need to try to dissuade him

At first you will be overcome by conflicting feelings and desires. I want to talk with the ex and convince him to start everything from the clean sheet. Throw the phone and cry, without dialing a number. Open a bottle of wine, call a girlfriend and tell with which a villain they divided the roof. Write to him that you love.

I made a mistake, starting to write to my ex -husband. I asked forgiveness for everything that he lacked in a relationship, and suggested trying to preserve the Union. Looking back, I understand how meaningless humiliations were. The one who made the decision will not change it. I caused myself even greater pain. Then I did not know that he discussed my

messages from the one that was partly the reason for our parting.

The lesson that I ended: you can always talk to a loved one, but do not write and do not call your former partner until you calm down and think about why you need it.

3. It is important to divide accounts as soon as possible

It is better to do this before the start of the divorce proceedings. It is even more important to make sure that the husband does not have debts that will fall on your shoulders. Absorbed in experiences, I did not think about it and regretted it more than once.